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Let Muslims understand well that these evil, shaitaani radio stations and channels operating in the name of Islam are platforms of zina. They have followed the kuffaar way of exploiting females for zina of a variety of hues. They operate under the La’nat and Ghadb of Allah Ta’ala. May Allah Ta’ala protect the community from the fisq and fujoor which these appendages of Shaitaan churn out.

MARRIAGE IS NOT TO CREATE A WEDGE

A truly lamentable and evil attitude in many women is their plot of creating a wedge between their husbands and their parents. The woman in her ignorance and selfishness feels that her husband should practically sever his ties with his parents. She wants to lay all claim to her husband as if he has become her chattel by virtue of Nikah.

She should understand that a man marries not for severing his ties with his parents nor to become the servant of his wife. If he happens to be a cuckold, then obviously this naseehat is not for him. Women who behave in this manner are utterly cruel. They invoke the Curse of Allah Ta’ala on themselves.

In these times we observe that inspite of living in a palatial home with ample space, the wife of the house is not prepared to allow her husband’s parents to live with them even if all facilities are separate and she enjoys her privacy. Parents who brought into this world their son, who suffered and sacrificed for him until he married, today are unable to live under the roof of their son simply because of a vixen who displays her satanic attitudes of spite, selfishness and malice.

While a wife expects her husband to cultivate the best of relationship with her parents and run at their beck and call, she has a ‘natural’ (nafsaani) aversion for her husband’s parents in particular and for her in-laws in general.

If the husband happens to be a man of strong will, ignoring his wife’s haraam desires, and brings his parents to live with him, the path for misery is paved. His wife will commence with swelling up her face, like a balloon. Everyone knows the rest of the story which will unravel in the aftermath.

For the sake of satisfying her inordinate nafsaani and evil desires, she become blind to the consequences of the evil path she chooses. She recklessly ruins her life, the life of her children and opts for even terminating the marriage. This is happening in increasing numbers in our days. Too many such cases are unfurling infront of our eyes.

It is imperative for women to understand that Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) observed on the Night of Mi’raaj that most inmates of Jahannum will be women. When the women enquired of the reason for this state of affairs, Nabi-e-Kareem (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) attributed the cause of their entry into Jahannum to ingratitude for their husbands and their abundance of curses.

Women have absolutely no right whatsoever to demand to live in a house completely apart from their parents-in-law. The Shariah gives her the right of separate and private accommodation. But this does not mean that she can demand a separate house in which she cannot tolerate the presence of her husband’s parents. As long as her husband provides such accommodation for her, whether in a separate house or whether in the same house in which his parents live, in which she has her privacy and is not compelled to serve on his parents against her will, her waajib right of Suknaa (shelter or home) has been satisfied in terms of the Shariah. She cannot insist that her husband accommodates her in a house where his parents will not be allowed to live.

The naseehat which we have provided here is for such women who are oppressive and make un-Islamic demands on their husbands. They are selfish and malicious. We are aware of the other side of the spectrum as well. Those women who are enslaved by their in-laws obviously are not the target of this naseehat. Insha’Allah, there will be another Naseehat for their husbands and in-laws in a future issue of The Majlis.

THE MODERN ULAMA-E-SOO’

The ulama-e-soo (evil scholars) of former times bartered away their Deen and even their Imaan for monetary gain and to curry favour with rulers. Their motive was not to debauch and ruin the morals of Muslims. But in the times we are living, the academically inept molvis of soo’ are out to plunder the morality of Muslims. Themselves bereft of Islamic morality, they lay their snares to trap Muslims into the net of immorality.

A trend of haraam and immoral fund-raising has been initiated by these vile molvis. Cake sales are organized as a way of raising funds for the Madrasah. At one such haraam cake sale young girls in charge of the zina stall, were provocatively garbed in tight fitting jeans, denims, tight tops and tight long skirts with long revealing slits. Molvis were present to grace the zina stall with their shaitaani presence. They joined in with the girls to sell their haraam wares.

Are such immoral offences in the public imaginable from men of learning? Such men who seduce the morals of young girls in the name of the Deen are, in the words of the Hadith, “wolves in sheep skin” or “shayaateen in human bodies”. They have the hearts of wolves and shayaateen. They are bereft of every vestige of shame, honour and respect. They are out to plunder the hayaa and chastity of stupid young girls whom they have ensnared into their evil traps of vice using their religious garb as subterfuge. Wala houla wa la quwwata! Only Allah Ta’ala can save this Ummah from the disastrous plunge into the abyss of moral ruin and worldly destruction, leave alone the disaster of the Aakhirat.

When incompatibility prevails in the home, the worst sufferers are usually the children. They are thrown into a quandary and confusion. Mother and father tread divergent paths. The children are in the middle, not really knowing which way to turn. But there is a dangerous determinant constraining them to make their choice.

Children do not follow intellect. They are basically beings of the nafs. They follow their emotions instinctively. Only fear of punishment restrains them from wrong. When they are confronted with two divergent paths —the path of the mother and the path of the father, they will invariably opt for the way which is pleasing to the nafs.

If the father’s life-style appeals to their desires, they will follow him. If the mother’s life-style is more appealing to their desires, they will follow the her. Their leader, especially if it happens to be a mother who lacks in intelligence and Islamic character will utterly ruin them. She will mislead them, not only because she herself is of loose morals, but also to spite her husband and to turn the children against him. Most women in such a situation demonize the father to the children. Since her ways suit their desires, they readily accept the falsehood their mother propagates about their father. They soon grow up with an aversion for their father. Even if they happen to be living together, they remain aloof from him.

Although sometimes an ignorant father too behaves in the same way, the incidence of mothers, due to their short-sightedness, defective intelligence and nafsaaniyat, ruining the character of their children and portraying their husbands as demons and tyrants to the children is dominant.

In the interests of the children which are among the aims or perhaps the main purpose of marriage, it is therefore essential to look at compatibility before getting married. Never be deceived by the kuffaar understanding of ‘love’. Never for one moment believe the myth that love will surmount the problems and obstacles. Whoever thinks in this way is truly an ignoramus.

The concept of love of westerners is nothing but animal lust. This loves evaporates swiftly when the incompatibility surfaces and is replaced by mutual hatred. An intelligent Muslim should never overlook this factor when it is time for marriage.